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Mary Poppins I am not.

I’m not a “Cruella De Ville”, but I am not in the same region as the likes of Mary Poppins, Nanny McPhee or any other wonderful child loving experts. I love my kids, VERY much, but when I’m with them 24/7 I stop appreciating them and start growling at them.

I’m sure there are mums out there who love spending every single waking moment with their children, and I take my hat off to them. It’s not an easy thing to do, and if you manage it with a smile on your face at the end of the week then you’re a better woman than me.

My children aren’t tiny babies, I haven’t given birth and sent them off to the grandparents for the week, they’re 8 and 2, and in the 8.5 years I’ve been a mummy, I can count the number of nights I’ve been away from them on one hand. I didn’t have children to pass them over every weekend, or ship them away to boarding school, that’s not what I’m talking about, but I don’t think it’s healthy for me to be in mummy mode 365 days a year.

I do have issues with babysitters. There are very few people I can give my children to, and be able to enjoy the time without them! I couldn’t hire a complete stranger to watch my kids, even if they had references from bloody Disney! God, I even check up on the hubs when he’s babysitting! You could say I am OCD when it comes to my kids. Which is where my problem is. I want a babysitter, but I feel guilty when they’re with someone else, worry they’ll be naughty/sad/won’t sleep/cry blah blah blah…..

I’m currently in the process of begging asking my parents to have the dudes once a month overnight. I’m not planning on partying on these days, Christ I’m not even planning on going out! I’m thinking of all the housework I could get done, or the blogs I could catch up on, or the sleep I could be having…… Oh OK, I might go to the cinema, or stop off at the pub for a quick G&T, I might go shopping and even go into a normal sized changing room without a buggy and an octopus grabbing things off the rails I don’t need (“How many items madam? 56 it would appear…”) but the most exciting thing for me is I’ll have 48 hours to be me, pre-children. No food to prepare, no nappies to change, no arguments to break up, no Cbeebies to watch (Music channel with close to the pornographic videos? Don’t mind if I do)

Is that selfish? I don’t think it is, you may disagree. Two days out of 30 isn’t bad, and it means the LM’s will have a much happier, relaxed mummy on the other 28 days.

Now. I am off to dig something out of my Mary Poppins bag and wipe a nose or something.



  1. Anonymous
    June 20, 2011 / 4:59 pm

    oh, totally agree 100%! I don´t have a break from Isabella, unless you count Onno! My parents are too far away and there is no way in h*ll my m-i-l is going to have her! I love her more than anything else in the world, but I love the days she has a really long afternoon nap – I get chance to chill or catch up on things. Haven´t quite managed how to get her to oversleep so we have a lie in though 😉 Sue xxx

  2. Katie
    June 20, 2011 / 8:56 pm

    I don't know how you do it! So far away from your family, and Onno babysitting doesn't help if you want to go out together.
    Thanks for commenting lovely, made me feel better!

  3. Mrs Hirons
    June 21, 2011 / 3:17 pm

    Hell Honey I'd ask them to have them every weekend.
    And I never leave my kids with anyone either.
    I don't even leave them with my eldest who is 19.
    Hello? I was 19 once. Exactly.
    Anyway – I digress.
    Never – I repeat NEVER feel guilty about taking time for yourself.

  4. Katie
    June 21, 2011 / 3:29 pm

    Thank you!! A million thank you's! What on earth are we like? Time to self, yes please, someone look after your kids? No chance!

    Also, can't believe you have a 19 year old?! I seriously need to follow your skin tips. x

  5. (Mostly) Yummy Mummy
    June 22, 2011 / 11:49 am

    Oh my goodness Kate, I could have written this myself – in fact as you spotted – I almost did! I think it's crazy that we feel guilty about grabbing some time to ourselves but I understand completely of course. I really hope that you get your day off 😉

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