I’ve touched on here a few times how I can get over -stressed about things, which, in turn, kicks off my anxiety and I find myself in a vicious circle. Being anxious makes me stressed, being stressed makes me anxious and they both make me feel like absolute crap. Twitching eyes, insomnia, a racing heart, it’s awful.
Luckily it hasn’t been that bad for a while, and I think it’s because I’ve managed to find a way to take care of myself, mentally.
Knowing yourself and when you start to overstep the boundaries of good levels of stress, the kind that makes you push yourself or want to reach certain goals, into the type of stress which is unhealthy and hard to deal with is key. You have to be able to notice where the lines meet and stop them from blurring.
It’s not always easy to notice, but once you have that marker in place, when you’ve crossed over into ‘bad stress’ zone, you should be able to spot the signs before it gets out of hand.
My issue is mental stress. Over thinking. If there was an award for being an over thinker, then I would win. Hands down. I have to physically tell myself to not go down that path. And it helps to have a list of techniques that compliment that.
Write It Out
Writing is my thing. If I write it down, it leaves my body, so to speak. I don’t know if that’s because we live in a world where everything is in text form, or if it’s the blogger in me. But writing down how I feel, what plans I need to make, lists on how to make myself feel less stressed (hi!) it all helps. I’ll often find myself going off on a tangent, and before I know it, I’ve written an essay and feel like a massive weight has been lifted.
Even if it’s just a to-do list, getting whats in your head, out, will help you put at least some of the issues into perspective.
The first thing that goes out the window when we’re stressed is the sensible gene. Despite knowing that fast food and chocolate won’t make us feel any better, it’s too easy to grab what’s quick and easy rather that something healthy and good for us. The odd chocolate bar isn’t going to hurt, but making the effort to eat decent, natural food will make us feel a whole lot better than white, processed crap.
Sleep It Off
A no brainer. Unfortunately, for me, sleep is one of the first things that goes when I’m stressed. Because apparently I think best when I’m in bed. Typical! I’ve found that having a bath with proper essential oils mixed in with a coconut carrier oil, low lighting and a beautiful Neom candle to make my bedroom smell like an amazing spa really helps. I have to actively stay off my phone after the bath, otherwise my head is buzzing with yet more information and ideas. Some people find reading in bed helps them switch off, but, I get too engrossed in books and don’t want to put them down, which doesn’t help either!
We all have things that we love to do, that feel indulgent or things we can’t usually fit into a normal, busy day. I love baking, but I don’t do it nearly enough because it takes up time, money and what I make is usually full of calories. But sometimes, doing what we really love, just because we can, is like a mini holiday. A break from the routine, and a chance to zone out. Whether it’s gardening, painting, reading a book or even doing yoga everyday, whatever floats your boat. Do that.
What role does stress play in your life? What are your tips for de stressing?